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Aging volunteer
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Hi Heidi, at first I thought you meant the person was driving as part of their volunteer duties, but it seems instead you're saying the family feels their loved one shouldn't be driving in general, including to and from their volunteer shifts.

We actually have a program and book called "We Need to Talk" about talking with parents about when it's time to stop driving. https://www.aarp.org/auto/driver-safety/info-2016/when-to-stop-driving-in-older-age.html. It's a very common experience for families. Spoiler alert: it's better for the family to talk about it before it gets to the point they are asking the volunteer program to help.

There's a piece of this that makes me think about how it's not about aging. Instead, it's about a family's concern for their loved one's abilities. What if it was some other concern by the family and they thought you should be the one to help them fix it? Also, what if the person wasn't "aging?"
 
Heidi, 

In the past, with aging/medically declining volunteers I have asked for doctor's notes upon their return.

Have you tried talking to the volunteer one on one yet? If so, my next call would've been to phone the family of the volunteer. 

Could you offer the volunteer to volunteer at a different capacity rather than driving?

Hope this helps! Thanks!


 
An aging volunteer is felt to be no longer a safe driver.  Her husband and daughter (who lives out of town) were asked to intervene but the volunteer is still driving and volunteering.

I told the volunteer coordinator if safety is at risk with her driving that they should consider calling the police if the family is unable to stop her, but has anyone else dealt with an issue like this?

Thanks for your thoughts.
 
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